Are You Attached To The Behavior Of Others?

Mandala-gold-foil-trans-with-stroke (1)Do you ever get frustrated when you see people spouting off some type opinion that doesn’t align with your own? You might have even unfollowed them from Social Media after it.

OR Have you seen someone talk about or DO something that you don’t agree with and you get angry over that?

OR You become absolutely outraged over the fact that they DID something you don’t believe is right and now it’s set your pants on fire?

This is called Attachment.

When you are Attached to another person’s behavior, actions or beliefs and have a DESIRE for them to Do it, Feel it or Think it differently – you can become Attached to their behavior.

You know you’re there when you’re thinking or feeling things like:

  • Well that’s not right.
  • That’s out of alignment.
  • Feel outraged.
  • Get frustrated and angry.
  • Have thoughts like “OMG they’re so stupid.”
  • How could you believe that?
  • How could you do that?
  • Point out how they’re wrong and you’re right.
  • Disagree with others publicly.
  • …maybe even get a little self-righteous.

If it’s enough to get you all wired up then it’s  attachment.

Energetic attachment is the desire for another person to change, alter or shift they’re own thoughts, feelings or behaviors that feels MORE ACCEPTABLE to your own FEELINGS and DESIRES.

Now when I write this – you’re like – “I don’t do that – I allow everyone to have their own opinions.”

Well, if you’re experiencing any of the above – then subconsciously – You’re Not.

Now that you’re attached – everything in that vibration is going to drive you mad until you pull your energy from it.

So how can you tell when you’ve become Energetically attached to the outcome of another person?


It’s the key word.

When you WANT something from another person – whether it’s follow-up, a return call, a change in thinking, a change in their actions, behaviors etc…  you have become energetically attached BECAUSE you WANT them to act or behave differently.

Some underlying vibrations that go along with attachment?

> WANTING them to do something or respond in any particular fashion can sometimes show up as the  vibration of control.

SOLUTION: Be responsible for controlling your own behavior.

> WANTING them to think or behave differently shows up as a personal responsibility component.

SOLUTION: Be responsible for what you think or how you behave.


> WANTING – Any type of change from another.

SOLUTION – Be responsible for that desire within yourself.

So what’s the big deal if I WANT these things and become Energetically Attached to the outcome?

Good question! So glad you asked it.

First, you can’t SHIFT a vibration if YOU’RE IN the same Frequency.

Lower Vibrations don’t shift Lower Vibrations.

So, more LOWER VIBRATION contributions (reactions) only serve as FUEL to increase the PUSH and SHOVE Effect of that frequency.

Ex. Anger met with Anger = More Anger. (Plus power and control struggles  – but that’s another post 😉 )

HIGHER VIBRATIONS Elevate LOWER VIBRATIONS. (Google The Law of Resonance)

Ex. Anger + Love = SHIFT

Second,  for the energetically sensitive person, or a we like to call the (Vibrant Sensitive) you can start to feel the Empathic Backlash.

Empathic Backlash Looks Like This:

Tapping into the Mass Consciousness of low vibration and frequencies of Lack, Separation, Abandonment, and Fear.

  • Yes, you will start feeling all of the person’s lessons, tasks and Karma.
  • You can feel their thoughts, feeling and beliefs, as if they were your own.
  • You will engage the fear monster and ignite your Fight or Flight modes.
  • You will get angry and frustrated for no reason and lower your vibration and levels of tolerance.
  • You move out of alignment.

More on how to mange  Empathic Sensitivity Can Be Found Here)

So, now you’re ATTACHED to someone who refuses to take responsibility for their own actions and your frustration levels are through the roof.

You might even slip into judgement and start-up with a thousand reasons as to why this person is… blah, blah, blah.

They Key to NOT becoming Attached to the outcome of others behaviors is ALLOWING.

Sometimes people need to swim in the Cesspool of life before they realize that they want to crawl out. Sometimes they’ll do it. Sometimes they won’t – they’ll stay there for lifetimes until they’ll ready and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Everyone uses their own unique tools when it comes to Spiritual Growth and Evolution and no amount of your WANTING is going to change that.

So… you will need to remove your attachments and ALLOW them to swim in the cesspool of their own making until they can figure out how to crawl out.

You certainly don’t want to dive in and swim with them, right? Well that’s EXACTLY what you’re doing when you become attached and start feeling all their stuff!

Instead, we offer you this:

Try holding a nice little bubble of  Compassion. No judgement. You don’t have to agree with their point of view – but you don’t have to permit their point of view to move you out of your own alignment either.

More on Practicing Compassion here)

It’s not your job to fish them out of their cesspool.

WHAT IF swimming in the cesspool is the lesson they need in order to realize that they’re IN a cesspool in the first place?

What IF this is they’re way of Activating important spiritual lessons for their own personal development and growth? Would you want someone coming into your life, pointing the finger at you and telling you how you’re doing it all wrong?

Well, neither do they. 😉

Be responsible for YOU… because in truth that is the only thing you truly have any control over. Yourself.

So, what is the Keyword or phrase to look out for when you’re feeling triggered? 



This is what I WANT for you…

The moment you hear it come out of your mouth – check yourself – are you energetically attaching to the outcome or desire of what you want for that person?

  • Do you want them to change, alter or behave in some other way then they are?
  • Are you in alignment with that energy.
  • Are you feeling triggered?

**Remember… this is all happening energetically and you may not even know you’re doing it but you will certainly feel it.

It’s all about being more Self-Aware of  YOUR OWN energy, where it is and who you’re attaching it to.

So I”ll invite you to keep your energetic hands to yourself… you will be much happier for it! 🙂 

Did this article Stir you up?


You’re attached. ❤



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